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My father passed away.

Monday afternoon I spoke with him, briefly, on the phone. I told him a bit about Consonance, that one band included a guy playing an actual metal washboard. Dad laughed and said that "You don't see that much anymore."

I left work at 4:30 and headed to Dad's Adult Family Home. He died shortly before I arrived. I spoke with the staff, several of whom I've gotten to know over the last 6 months he's lived there. Mel in particular was grieving. The hospice nurse confirmed the funeral home (Evergreen-Washelli) with me and that it was okay to take away the body. I emailed my boss and others at work explaining I'd be taking today off.

This morning was the meeting at the funeral home. I chose no service. My folks had pre-arranged cremation and a dual urn in the Washelli columbarium. The funeral people didn't push, for which I'm grateful. I remembered to take Dad's birth certificate and Navy discharge with me to help make sure the paperwork is all correct. They will notify Social Security for me.

Then off to the AFH to pick up Dad's things. His dresser, walker, sheets, and day clock I gave the AFH. The wheelchair will be picked up by the rental agency. His clothes we dropped off at Value Village. I brought the remaining furniture, photos, a couple pillows my grandmother knitted covers for, and other keepsakes home.

There will be plenty to do later; notifying his bank, the pension managers, creditors, dealing with the VA, and taxes and on and on. But much of that will require a certified copy of the death certificate, which I should be able to order in about a week. So...I'm treating that as a sign from the universe not to stress over it.

Overall I think I'm fine. Then I feel very tired at the idea of doing something simple. I'm not 100% by any means, but I'm not incapacitated. I'm just ... here.
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I am so sorry for your loss. *hugs*
Thank you.
My condolences.
Thank you.
I'm so sorry. Thinking of you. Be gentle with yourself.
Thank you.
*hugs* I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank you.
I'm sorry for your loss. And just being there is okay. *hugs*
Sometimes that's just where we're at.

Thank you.
I'm sorry, Jen.
Thank you.
I am sorry for your loss.
Thank you.
I am sorry.
Thank you.
I'm so sorry, Jen.
Thank you.
Aww Jen. I'm sorry. It's never easy to lose a loved one.
Thank you.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Thank you.
*hugs* I'm terribly sorry to hear of your loss.
Thank you.
I am very sorry to hear that let me know if you need anything
Thank you.
So sorry to hear of your loss. My condolences.

Everyone's grief is different, and it takes its own course. Let it.
Thank you.
More hugs here. Let me know if there's anything I can help with.
Thank you. *hugs*
I'm very sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
I've tried to say that so many times and never said it this well. IAWTC.
Sorry for your loss. Please let me know if there is anything that I might do to help.
Thank you.
You have my deepest sympathies. It doesn't matter if it was known or expected - it's still hard and takes time and will hit you at odd moments.

{{{{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
"hitting at odd moments" is definitely there.

Thank you.
Condolences to you, Jen. Grief is a weird thing and can manifest in different ways at different times. Be gentle with yourself and lean on your friends. *hugs*
Thank you.

Grief is a weird thing and can manifest in different ways at different times.

Yes indeed. That was one of the biggies with my mother's passing.
I'm so sorry.
I'm sorry.

I'm glad that the last time you talked, it was good and involved laughter.
I'm sorry for your loss, Jen.
Thank you.
Condolences, Jen. I'm glad your last phone call with him was good. Take care of yourself.
Thank you. Most of the time we've seen each other in the last year I've made him laugh. I'm glad.
My condolences, hon.
Thank you.
I'm sorry, Jen. :/ I know it was not unexpected, but it's still difficult. Hugs to you if you want them.
Thank you. And yes, not unexpected, but difficult in ways I didn't anticipate.

Gentleness to you and your household...

You are in my thoughts.
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